Michel wrote: ↑Sun Aug 29, 2021 11:41 amThe name of this engine is needlessly offensive towards women. Joking about it does not change that.
Disregarding the fact that many people who don't identify as women have "tits"—and that indeed some of those people have "fat tits"—and allowing that many people may reasonably interpret "fat tits" to be an exclusive reference to post-pubescent human ~female-presenting anatomy, in what way is merely referring to that anatomy automatically offensive? Is the goal of the SJW movement to prevent people from ever even hinting at the fact that humanity isn't a homogeneous mass of clones?
Sopel wrote: ↑Sun Aug 29, 2021 12:35 pmWould "Fat Cock" be offensive towards men? Or chickens?
I expect that this would also have been found offensive to women. "Fat Titz" is men using their gaze as a weapon. "Fat Dikz", let's say, would be men using their phalluses as weapons. It's easy when you realize the the goal is simply to always take offense.
Michel wrote: ↑Sun Aug 29, 2021 1:53 pmWomen have long suffered and still stuffer from sexualization by men. So references to female anatomy carry a lot more weight than references to male anatomy.
This is admittedly outside my area of expertise, but I suspect that women and men sexualize each other to similar extents. The average man, however, experiences and expresses sexuality and sexualization in different ways than the average woman, for example.
This is why the hypersexualization of men in entertainment and the media—when directed at women—often results in portrayals like immortal vampire teens and impossibly rich 20-year-old business magnates. While they are still usually conventionally attractive and fit, their superficial characteristics tend to play second fiddle to those traits that the average woman is more likely to experience deep attraction to.
It's not clear to me that typical expressions of sexualization and how they vary across gender and sex roles has anything to do with the
fact that women suffer at the hands of men. It certainly affects
how women suffer at the hands of men, though, as behavior is driven by preferences.
Perhaps a reasonable argument can be made that one should generally avoid forms of expression that resemble (or could be construed to resemble) those of powerful, abusive people, but I'm not convinced that the mere mention of a defining physical or potentially sexual characteristic should be off limits. People often refer to each others' physical characteristics—even in a sexual way—in contexts and manners that are widely deemed to be normal, normative, and appropriate. The main thing that separates abuse from banter is precisely that context, which is why one can innocently appreciate a spouse's beauty and sexuality, say, but their boss can not.
And even though people are always complaining about jokes that are offensive to them, there still seems to be some degree of consensus that a good-faith attempt at humor—in a relaxed environment in which humor is either invited or reasonably excused—constitutes an appropriate context in which to make potentially offensive remarks, as long as you don't seem to be "punching down", unduly focusing on a non-cis-white-male demographic to which you don't belong, or inattentively ignoring the discomfort of those around you.
I believe that Sopel's original post was intended to be humorous—and the extent to which it was obviously meant to offend had only to do with satirizing the past behavior and opinions of Norman and Albert—which inclines me to give him a wide degree of latitude when it comes to policing the form of his expression.
In my experience, these forums—indeed most internet forums—are relatively tolerant of insouciance and attempts at humor, as long as not taken to excessive or disruptive extremes. And as far as I know, Sopel doesn't have a history of constantly making disruptive posts or "humorous" references to sex, or human anatomy, or perceived-as-exclusively-female anatomy, etc., so him choosing to do so here doesn't seem to indicate a regular pattern of misbehavior, even if I thought this thread's OP rose to the level of misbehavior in the first place, which I don't.
Given that, perhaps you would have been better received had you simply expressed the opinion that you disliked Sopel's attempt at humor, that you found it juvenile, unfunny, and inappropriate, and that you think these forums are best served when all members maintain higher standards of professionalism and decorum. As it stands, in my estimation, only one person in this thread so far has been unreasonably hostile and disruptive, and it isn't Sopel. It's you!